By now, I’m sure you all are very familiar with my #momreality project that I’m always posting about. (But just in case you aren’t, you can learn about it here)
I’m very passionate about this project. I believe that our perception of motherhood has been completely skewed to the impossible, thanks to social media. I believe in being real, and celebrating how it truly can be; messes, tantrums and all.
But recently, I had a very curious reaction to the project.
I was asked why I hate Pinterest so much.
It puzzled me. I don’t hate Pinterest at all. Without Pinterest, I wouldn’t have half as much fun party planning for my kids.
She thought #momreality was about embracing laziness, and being jealous of Moms who keep spotless houses. She thought it was about complaining about motherhood.
So I’m here to clarify.
#momreality is…. whatever is your reality.
No one is perfect, we simply each have different priorities in life.
I, for example, adore Pinterest-y parties and I bake my own tiered birthday cakes for the kids, decorated in-theme. But my minivan looks like a bomb went off in it, and I’m typically behind in laundry. My toddler throws epic tantrums daily. I don’t wear yoga pants outside of the gym. I typically try to do my hair and makeup, and yes, I even wear accessories daily. I am not the Mom who has ever skipped a shower. (it’s the only way I can wake up in the mornings) I drink too much coffee, I play on my phone too much and struggle with disconnecting. I am getting better at keeping the clutter picked up in the house so I am less embarrassed if someone rings the doorbell unexpectedly, but I am terrible at cleaning my shower. I stay up too late and struggle getting out of bed each morning. I work out 4 times a week, but mostly because it’s my only true “me” time when someone isn’t hanging on me and I don’t have to worry about my ever-growing to-do list. I love science fiction and attend a local fan-run con every summer. I miss reading actual books with paper pages. I am SO not put together.
The Mom with the spotless house? She has struggles, too. The same goes with the Mom who lives in yoga pants. And the Mom who homeschools with adorable Pinterest crafts every day. And organic food Mama, and fast food Mama.
#momreality is about unifying us all by not hiding the bits of motherhood that aren’t perfect. Celebrate it! Because no matter which of these Mamas you may be, you have at some point in your mothering career been brought to the brink by the small people in your house that you so fiercely love. And it’s ok. We all need to know that it’s ok.